I love the Relief Society motto, “Charity Never Faileth” because it always reminds me that everything we do in the Relief Society is all about love.  So often we think of charity as merely the giving of goods or service. The Apostle Paul taught, “And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing (1 Cor. 13: 3). It is not the giving of goods that makes it charity, it is the love that we have for those that we serve.  Charity is the pure love of Christ, an unlimited loving kindness.

I have found that the visiting teachers who have helped me the most are those that develop charity, a Christ-like love, for the sisters that they visit. Sometimes I might be hesitant to ask my visiting teachers for help if I don’t know them well because I don't want to bother them, even though I know I shouldn't feel that way. I have felt most comfortable asking for help from a visiting teacher when I know that they are my friend and do love me.
When I feel that kind of love from my visiting teachers I have no problem calling on them for help. Most recently, my washing machine broke and I had a giant pile of dirty baby clothes to launder that smelled like sour milk and newborn poo.  Instead of panicking that my little one might run entirely our of clean clothes before  a new washing machine could be installed, I called my wonderful visiting teachers who I consider my friends,  and by the next afternoon I had clean baby clothes again.  A key to being an effective visiting teacher is to remember that it's not about the numbers and getting a visit done every month, it's about getting to know your sisters so that you see them as Christ sees them and love them as Christ loves them. That is what it means to have charity.